Aug. 17, 2025

Repisode 947: “No” Will Save Your Life & Make You Rich

Repisode 947: “No” Will Save Your Life & Make You Rich

Send us a text We’ve all heard no—and we’ve all said no to ourselves. But what if you’ve been handling both sides of no the wrong way? In this episode, I walk you through a mindset shift that will change how you show up in the world—starting with two simple ideas: 👉 When you tell yourself no—take it seriously. 👉 When someone else tells you no—don’t make it permanent. This isn’t about toxic positivity. It’s about self-discipline and mental strength. It’s about learning when to hold the ...

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We’ve all heard no—and we’ve all said no to ourselves.

But what if you’ve been handling both sides of no the wrong way?

In this episode, I walk you through a mindset shift that will change how you show up in the world—starting with two simple ideas:

👉 When you tell yourself no—take it seriously.
👉 When someone else tells you no—don’t make it permanent.

This isn’t about toxic positivity. It’s about self-discipline and mental strength.
 It’s about learning when to hold the line—and when to break through one.

You’ll learn:

  • Why your personal no is the most powerful form of self-respect
  • How we tend to ignore our own no while letting others' no define us
  • How to turn rejection into redirection
  • And why is no often a locked door that you're meant to build a key for

If you've been negotiating with your own standards—or letting one "no" from someone else stop your momentum—this episode is for you.

It's time to rewire how you respond to no, so you can unlock everything that's waiting for you on the other side.

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Keep it simple. Keep it moving. Never settle. Stay tough. 

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All right.

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3, 2, 1. Let's get it.

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Welcome to another episode of What's Your Problem, the podcast.

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I'm your host, Marsh Buice and today I want to talk about, one word, just two letters that can literally change everything in your life.

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No.

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Oh, you probably just reacted when I just, when I just, when I just said no, but no will save your life, and it'll also make you rich.

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It's true, because when you tell yourself no, that's the beginning of self-discipline.

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And when you don't take no for an answer from others.

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That's the beginning of resourcefulness, creativity, and your breakthrough.

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So let me show you what I mean.

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No is a trigger word.

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No shit.

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It's short, it's common.

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But boy is it loaded.

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No causes a reaction, doesn't it?

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I mean it.

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It makes you feel tense.

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It stops you in your tracks and depending on how you respond both internally or externally, it either sharpens you up or it shuts you down.

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And here's the crazy part, we treat our own no like an option.

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We treat other people's.

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No.

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Like a final judgment.

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So when we tell ourselves no, we downplay it.

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We make exceptions.

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We rationalize it, we try to wiggle out of it, and we negotiate with ourselves.

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But bro, when someone else tells us no, it's the craziest thing in the world.

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We take it personally, we internalize it, and we act like.

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It's the end of the road.

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I mean, cue up the Boys to Men song, although we've come to the end of the road, but you do let go.

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Oh, okay.

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You're gonna have to listen to the song if you don't know what I'm talking about.

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But we do, man.

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We, we take, when someone else does us know, it's like it.

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That's it.

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It's like it's the end of the road.

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What I want you to do now is I want you to flip it around.

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First off, tell yourself no and mean it.

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If you want to improve your life, that two letter word will begin to change everything for you.

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Telling yourself no is the start of self-discipline.

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If you want to prove your self-discipline, if you say, man, I wish I was more discipline, it starts with the ability to tell yourself no and mean it.

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No to distractions.

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No to excuses.

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No.

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To compromising your values.

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No.

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To skipping the gym.

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No.

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To that extra drink that likes the fuse for everything.

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No, to the thing that chips away at the man that you're becoming.

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But most people, they don't take their own.

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No, seriously.

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You treat it like a suggestion, like it's something optional.

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You say no, but you stay in the moment long enough to talk yourself out of it.

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We do.

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We end up negotiating.

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We rationalize.

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We say just this once, but understand this, just this once isn't a moment.

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It's a mindset.

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It's the mindset that's gonna cost your goals, your progress, and eventually your peace.

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And here's the irony of it all.

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You'll honor someone else's no faster than your own.

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You'll stop in your tracks when someone tells you no.

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But when you say it to yourself, you hesitate.

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You open up negotiations and you act like your boundaries are up for debate, and you can't build anything lasting like that.

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Stop giving your own voice a volume of two and the world's a volume of 10.

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The strength of your discipline is found in the weight of your no.

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So now we gotta flip it.

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Don't take no for an answer.

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When someone tells you no is not the end, it's not a definition of who you are, it's where you are.

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The conversation sometimes a no that you perceive is a k-n-o-w.

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No.

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In reality, it might mean not yet.

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It's not clear enough.

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They're not confident in your offer.

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They're not really sure what you're asking.

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'cause you're padding the no with a bunch of filler words because you're trying to pad the rejection.

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No.

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It could be a misunderstanding.

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It could be fear, it could be timing.

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But one thing, no is not, it's not final.

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It's not a monument.

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It's a moment.

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All no is is an answer.

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And you know what an answer is.

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It's a reaction.

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That's it.

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That's all an answer is.

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So, when someone tells you no as a reaction, don't meet their reaction with another reaction.

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Just respond with clarity, with curiosity, with creativity, no is rich with optionality.

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See, when most people hear, know, they give up.

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But when you're wired for growth.

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You see no as an opportunity in disguise.

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It's not rejection, it's redirection.

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No is nothing more than an opportunity.

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You gotta look at, no, like a lock on a door when you first walk up to that lock.

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It ain't turning.

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But with curiosity and creativity.

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Yeah, and asking clarifying questions.

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You stay in the no You stay in the fight.

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It's like you're working that key, bro.

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It's like you're shaping it and you're cutting the grooves on that key.

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And with the right sequence, that key slides in the lock and unlocks all the opportunity.

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You gotta be that key maker.

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You gotta be willing to do the work that others won't to stay in the moment to keep refining.

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Until you hear the click.

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That's what separates the winners from the quitters.

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They don't see no as a closed chapter.

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They just see it as an unfinished paragraph.

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No sharpens your message.

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It tests your resolve.

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It makes you unstoppable because you learn to tell yourself no and take it seriously, but when you hear no from others, I. You don't make it permanent.

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You keep showing up.

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You keep making the key.

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You gotta take action over negotiation.

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When you tell yourself no, bust a move when someone else tells you.

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No.

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Build.

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Don't sit in the moment and try to argue with your excuses.

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Don't wallow in someone else's reaction.

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Just move.

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That's the antidote of self-sabotage and the catalyst for success.

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No.

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Should never be where your momentum dies.

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No.

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Should be where your momentum starts.

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You just add to it curiosity, creativity, like the image that I have in my head is how can I keep the ball bouncing So let me wrap it up with this.

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Let no be your compass.

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Let no, when you tell it to yourself, build your discipline.

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Let no, when you hear it from others, build your determination because no will save your life.

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It'll make you rich.

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If you learn to honor your no and you challenge their no, you're gonna stay alive and you're gonna build something special in your life.

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Alright, let's get outta here.

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Thanks for listening.

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If this message resonated, please share it with someone who's in the middle of their no.

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Again, when you tell yourself no, take it seriously.

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When you hear no from others, don't make it permanent.

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It's not a definition of who you are, it's where you are.

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Thank you for making us the top 3% podcast in the world.

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We've crossed the a hundred thousand download mark.

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Dude, we're gonna keep building.

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No, we're not stopping.

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All right, let's get out here.

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Keep it simple.

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Keep it moving.

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Never settle.

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Stay tough.

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Peace.