Sept. 5, 2024

Decision-making: Is this a one-way or two-way door?

Decision-making: Is this a one-way or two-way door?
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Keep it simple. Keep it moving. Never settle. Stay tough. 

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3, 2, 1.

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Let's get it.

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Okay.

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Let's go.

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Welcome to another episode of what's your problem?

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The podcast.

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I'm your host Marsh Buice and I hope by listening to these episodes, you'll develop the skills necessary.

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To face the universal problems.

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We all face adversity and certainty and complacency.

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And so by listening to these episodes, developing the skills of communication, curiosity, creativity, continuous learning, and action and productive confrontation.

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The five CS I'll call them.

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You'll be able to handle the adversity.

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Embrace uncertainty.

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And never settle again today, man.

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I want to talk about.

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One way doors versus two way doors.

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And I love this.

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This idea from Amazon's Jeff Bezos.

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By the end of this episode.

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You'll be able to.

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Beat your procrastination.

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Make decisions quicker.

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And actually take on a little bit of risk.

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Risk is nothing more than a statistical calculation.

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That's all it is.

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And so if you want the eyes to the change, Then you got to lay a bet down and so many times people.

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Look at risk as if it's a gamble.

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It's not a gamble.

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It's a calculation and sometimes we just don't calculate everything.

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And so you want more yet?

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You're not willing to play more.

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And so you can't grow something.

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Without taking on a little bit of risk.

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You've got to take on a little bit of water.

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So let me explain one way versus two way doors for concept.

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One way doors are it's the point in overturn?

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Meaning the door is slammed.

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I make the decision.

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There's no going back.

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That's a one way door.

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Two way doors are, I can make the decision.

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But I can always go back.

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There were of lower consequences.

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They're not fatal.

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And I can either go back to where I was or cool.

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I can start again.

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That's a two way door.

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When you look at it like that most of the decisions in your life are two way doors, but we make them one way doors.

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Without trying anything.

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We just bark out why something won't work or why today's not the perfect time.

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And then we ended up not doing anything.

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And many times you don't make a decision.

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Because you're scared to fail.

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The feeling of failing.

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Is icky isn't it?

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I mean, it sucks.

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And also you don't want to fail in front of others.

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So we don't make decisions and we just kind of ride it out.

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And so we kind of protect where we are today.

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See, you've worked hard to get to where you are today.

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I get it.

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And you've, you've gone through a lot.

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But if you look back in your days, You took risk to get to where you are today.

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You just didn't call them two way doors.

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You probably didn't have much to lose.

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And so you said, fuck it.

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But today, because you're at a level, a title.

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You've amassed so much.

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We protect our ego.

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Are we become our own weatherman.

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And so you're waiting for perfect conditions, blue skies, clear sailing, and then I'm going to take the leap.

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Now you want.

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No you won't because things are going too good.

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And so this becomes this vicious cycle.

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I'm laughing because I've done it.

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This becomes this vicious cycle of you ride it out.

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You wait for things to cloud up again, and then you say, I'm telling you, man, next time it's blue skies.

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I'm going to do it.

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And thus.

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20 years down the road.

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You're still stuck in the mud.

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You're not where you want to be.

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You're behind the eight ball.

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Why?

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Because you looked at everything as a one-way door versus a two way door.

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You must understand that.

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What got you to where you are today?

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Could be the very thing.

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That's keeping you from going where you need to be.

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In other words, what was once a ceiling and you stretched for it once you got it, it became the floor, but the floor has now become an anchor.

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And your ass is glued to the floor.

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Because you look at everything as a one-way door.

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Versus a two way door.

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You got to embrace the idea.

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If I'm failing more than you.

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I'm winning.

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Failing as a process.

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So if I continue to work the process and I do it more than you.

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I'm going to beat you every single time because I keep coming back to it.

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So stop procrastinating.

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There's no more research that you got to do.

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There's nothing else.

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You got to buy.

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Start with free work toward what you want, earn what you need, but start with free.

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Start with what you got.

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You don't start because you're looking at the finished product.

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It's not going to be a finished product.

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The idea that I had for this podcast is nothing.

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Like when I first started back in 2017, ain't nothing like it.

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It's taken on so many iterations and messages and ways of thinking and communicating and ideas.

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It's gone.

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Hell the name has changed three times.

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It was the sales life.

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Then it was the Marsh Buice podcast.

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Then it was, what's your problem?

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You know, I thought about this morning.

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I thought about naming it.

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Why don't you grow up?

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Meaning grow up.

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I started playing with that idea.

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I'm not tethered to anything.

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If the message is clear and concise and, and we'll help you.

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Sell your way through life and be able to embrace uncertainty, handle the adversity and never settle again.

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Bro.

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That's exactly what I came here to do.

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That is it.

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And while I'm talking to you, I'm living it for me.

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I got to do the same damn thing.

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So dialing this back in.

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You got to take some risk.

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And when you get to these points of hesitation today, Just say, is this a one-way door?

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Two-way door.

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Am I protecting my ego.

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Am I scared to fail?

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Well, you're going to continue to shrink.

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And to mediocrity.

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and most of the things that you come across today are two way doors.

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It's no big deal.

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You can go through them and you can always go back and hell.

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It'll give you something to talk about today.

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When you're drinking a beer with.

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With the fellows, y'all get to laugh about something.

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If you didn't take risks.

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What would you ever talk about?

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If you didn't fail sometimes, you wouldn't have things to laugh about.

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So it's these risks that you take.

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And most of them are two way doors.

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Some of the risks you can laugh at.

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Some of them.

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You can thank God for, because you took the risk.

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You embrace the uncertainty.

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You stepped out there.

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And you said.

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Let me try it.

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That's all I want you to do today.

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And 99% of the things you come across today are going to be B two way doors.

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But you may come across a one way door, if you are honest and honest and honest, if it is a one-way door and you know that you know that, you know, this door slams the minute I'll walk out.

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Then, what I want you to do is don't back off of it.

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Sit down and write out.

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All of the potential outcomes that it could be.

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Write them all out.

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As a matter of fact, I would tell you when you're drinking with a friend, just say, look, this is what I'm thinking about.

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What are some consequences that you can come up because you may be looking at it just through a bias lense cause you gotta write the good, bad and the ugly.

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And so when you write these things down, And you have somebody else that you really trust.

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Can help you write down some other possibilities.

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Then once you do that, if you can stomach all of the potential outcomes.

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Good, bad, and ugly.

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Don't just look at the high side, look at the low side too.

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If you can stomach all of those potential outcomes.

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Then go ahead.

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Take the leap.

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You're going to thank God for it.

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And if it's not something you can tolerate right now, if you can't stomach it.

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Financially.

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Emotionally, spiritually, relationally.

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We just can't do it right now.

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Then don't back off from it.

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Work toward it work to start.

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You just probably need some more time.

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So develop those skills to help mitigate the risk.

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Get yourself in a better position.

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May take a little bit of time.

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I'm doing that.

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I want to be a full-time podcaster.

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It's going to take some time to do that.

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So, what are the things that I can work toward?

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And help mitigate the risk.

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So that way.

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When it is a one-way door.

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I can stomach that I can handle it.

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And I can go through that door.

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And open up new possibilities.

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Sometimes you're going to find too.

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That what is a one-way door today?

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And you don't give up on your dream.

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You don't give up on what you want to get to.

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And you work toward mitigating those risk.

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That time that you put in.

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Actually becomes a two way door.

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And you're able to.

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Explore possibilities, kind of a sampling of a source.

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And so you're able to try different doors.

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It's no big deal.

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Didn't work.

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Step back.

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I'm still good.

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I'm not mentally.

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Relationally financially wrecked.

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It's just a part of the process.

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And this.

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Is how you get to a next level.

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This is how me and you level up.

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This is the end of this episode.

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All right.

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Share this with someone else.

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One way door, two way door.

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All right.

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You decide, keep it simple.

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Keep it moving.

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Never settle.

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Stay tough peace.