Oct. 16, 2025
963. RESISTANCE: Use It Or Be Used By It.
Send us a text Resistance never goes away. Ever. It’s the voice that says, “You’ll start tomorrow.” It’s the delay, the distraction, the doubt that creeps in when you’re just about to move. You don’t beat resistance once and walk away clean — you overcome it every day. First, you’ve got to overcome it. Then, you’ve got to leverage it. Because once you push past that initial wall, resistance becomes your greatest ally. Some days, you’ll have to outwork it. Other days, you’ll have...
Resistance never goes away. Ever.
It’s the voice that says, “You’ll start tomorrow.” It’s the delay, the distraction, the doubt that creeps in when you’re just about to move.
You don’t beat resistance once and walk away clean — you overcome it every day.
First, you’ve got to overcome it. Then, you’ve got to leverage it.
Because once you push past that initial wall, resistance becomes your greatest ally.
Some days, you’ll have to outwork it.
Other days, you’ll have to use its weight to rise higher.
But make no mistake — resistance never quits.
So the question is… what are you going to do with it?
Or better yet — what’s it going to do with you?
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All right.
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3, 2, 1. Let's get it today.
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Let's talk about resistance.
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And I laugh saying this because you know, previous episode 9 62, I said, Hey man, we're coming out the next episode, actually, 9 61.
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I said, at 9 62, we're gonna come out with resistance.
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And then 9 62, I said, eh, it didn't come out with resistance, but I promise you the next one's gonna be about resistance.
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And bro, I hesitate on bringing this one out or, or delayed in bringing this one out, I should say is because.
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I did two other ones before this one.
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It's just I've, as I'm saying this, I realize I was resisting coming out with an episode on resistance.
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It wasn't that I didn't feel the episode, it's just I have an insatiable appetite every day to create something new.
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So I'm not a fan of going back in previous episodes and re clipping them.
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I'm just, I'm not a fan of doing that.
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And I have, I don't know, probably 50 if I had to just shoot from the hip, probably 50 that I have written for podcast episodes and then just never release because if I don't record 'em in the same day and because I like to write every day something new, I, I just, I move on down the road and I'm always like, well, I'm gonna do it on my day off, or I'm gonna record that one.
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Um.
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You know, um, I'm gonna record that one on this weekend, and I never do.
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It's like literally like.
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Probably 90% of the time, seven days a week I'm writing something.
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The days I don't write something, I'm just like agitated.
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So I really, really, really try to focus on that.
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Sometimes I, my writing, if I'm in a, in a jam and this may work for you, is like, I'll, I'll have the idea.
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And I actually audibly write, meaning that I will record my thoughts in my voice memo app, and then I copy the transcript.
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And then run it through chat, and then I refine it from there.
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Um, so it kind of condenses what I'm, and clarifies and, and arranges the flow and stuff like that.
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Um, so saying all that to say, I've been resisting resistance, so what a great topic today.
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And I think it's, I think it's super important because resistance Man is like, it's super sneaky.
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It really is, it's, it's very subtle and resistance.
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It, it doesn't come crashing through the door.
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It like seeps in quietly, almost like a monoxide gas and has a thousand faces.
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It shows up disguises, comfort.
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It sounds logical.
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It whispers like reason, and it disguises itself as like harmless delay by telling you, look bro, you've worked hard.
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Just take it easy.
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You've earned a break.
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We could double up tomorrow.
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We could start next month.
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We could start at the first of the year.
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That's resistance.
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And as harmless as it seems, it is far from harmless.
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It's destructive, but you just don't see it in blunt force.
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It's delayed.
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It comes because it builds layer by layer.
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Until one day, everything feels slow, heavy.
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You're just outta sync.
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You're so far off track and like literally it's like you just sober up one day.
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You like, you like snap out of it.
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Like share in moonstruck slapping, who was that?
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Nicholas Cage Snap out of it, and that's what happens.
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Then all of a sudden we look up the, all of a sudden we look up and we're like, oh my God, what happened?
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Nothing just happened.
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You've been losing though, not knowingly.
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You've been losing to resistance in small, quiet ways.
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One negotiation at a time.
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That's how resistance wins.
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Not all at once, but little by little, like microscopic, little by little it's like a thousand little pinholes, so that comfort, a little bitty pinhole, a little seep that double up, that delay, that procrastination.
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That get around to it.
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Pin, pin, pin, pin, pin.
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And it's these little bitty pinholes.
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Think of like a sewing machine.
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And what's happening is, man, it's just, it, it's blowing in there.
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Those little tiny things.
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One dot, no big deal, a thousand of them, you bleed out.
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That's what resistance is.
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In his book, resisting Happiness.
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Great book, man.
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I like to go back to that book from time to time, um, because it just, it's just a way of recentering recalibrating.
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Matthew Kelly writes this.
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He said the hardest one.
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This is about resistance.
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I love this.
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This is the actually the, the, the, uh, inspiration for today's episode.
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He said the hardest war to win.
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Is the one you don't even realize you're fighting and the hardest enemy to defeat is the one you don't even know exists.
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That's resistance.
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It is.
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And lemme tell you something, you're never gonna be live a day in your life.
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Resistance.
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Free resistance is always gonna be there.
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It is there when you wake up, it's there when you sit down to write.
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It's there when you work out.
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It's there when you have to have a hard conversation.
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It's there on your job.
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It's there in your creativity.
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It's there in your faith.
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It's in your finances.
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It's everywhere.
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And what's crazy is resistance It, it's so elusive.
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It doesn't have to shove you backwards.
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It stalls you out just long enough for your momentum to fade.
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That's the danger of resistance.
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It doesn't need to defeat you.
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Resistance only needs to delay you.
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That's how she wins.
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But here's the good news.
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Even when you can't eliminate resistance, you can use it to your advantage, like the gym resistance.
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When you lift, you add weight.
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That's resistance.
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That builds strength in life.
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That resistance builds commitment, resolve grit, and will.
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Shit, bro.
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If resistance is always gonna be there, you might as well make it work for you.
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See, when you face resistance, it feels heavy.
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It pushes you down.
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When you work with resistance, it makes you stronger.
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Unmanaged.
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Resistance will make you feel less than resistance.
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Mastered will make you unstoppable.
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when it comes to resistance.
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Some days, man, you gotta overcome it, and other days you gotta leverage it.
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Like you gotta overcome it.
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Some days when it's trying to push you down and other days, bro, you gotta leverage it where you, where you manage it and you flex it.
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That's what creates flight.
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The first form of resistance hits me just like it does you.
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Every morning when the alarm clock goes off, that warm and cozy bed, that's the first battle of the day.
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So I jump up, I do, and I hit the snooze.
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But lemme tell you what the snooze is.
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The snooze lasts for nine minutes.
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I don't stay down for nine minutes.
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It means I have nine minutes to get myself together, brush my teeth, take my vitamins, sound like Hulk Hogan here, take my vitamins and get up front.
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That's that nine minutes.
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I don't get up because I feel like it.
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I get up because I know what's waiting for me.
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If I don't resistance and if I don't get up, I take the L right off the bat.
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First two minutes or so is terrible.
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After that, it's like, all right, let's go.
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So I fight resistance every day.
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I fight it just like you do.
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I just put a process in that helps me stay not only aligned, but also actionable in growth.
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I wake up at a set time or after I go walk the dogs I read for 15 minutes from a random book I write about what I just read or what hits my soul.
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I work out.
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Sometimes it's resistance training.
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Sometimes it's cardio.
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Sometimes it's resistance.
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Bands in the driveway.
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Sometimes it's stretching.
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Bust a sweat.
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And I share something of value.
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It's like, what?
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This is right here.
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And then I design my day, what I'm gonna eat, know I'm gonna eat, and what I'm gonna wear and where I'm going, man, I just try to design that, try to just outline it so that way resistance is there the whole time.
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Every step of the way resistance is there.
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But you learn to leverage it.
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You do with consistency, man, you do.
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You just, you feel it, but you don't fall to it.
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You don't, you just like, come on, bro.
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Like, I feel you.
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I see you.
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Let's go.
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And at, at first, man, resistance.
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I mean, think about it.
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When you, when you're starting anything new, uh, that's the, like, the heaviest shit in the world, isn't it?
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It feels rigid.
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It feels like it's not gonna work.
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It feels like I, I can't even hold it all.
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That's just resistance talking.
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But once you turn it into a process like what I was saying, it becomes a rhythm you have to act your way into a feeling because feelings are unreliable.
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Resistance masked as , feelings.
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It's always gonna be there.
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The feeling to show up is not always gonna be there.
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It's not.
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So you have to act your way into a feeling instead of feel your way into an action.
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If you're waiting for feelings to show up, good luck on that one.
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You're gonna be so inconsistent.
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You're gonna have no momentum.
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You're gonna be just up, down, up, down, up, down.
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No.
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That's what resistance does, man.
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I move before I'm ready and then the feelings just have to show up.
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Man, I wanna end with this.
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Resistance never leaves, but neither will I. You don't conquer it once.
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You just outwork it every day.
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You do.
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You're not gonna destroy it.
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You just gotta build through it.
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And so when you see resistance, see how resistance you look at it differently now.
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Like, you know, it's, it's, you look at it through a different lens.
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It's a different perspective.
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It's a crazy thing about resistance.
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Resistance is the reason why most people stop.
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But it's also the reason why a few people soar is because they understand what resistance is.
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Some days you gotta overcome it, and other days you gotta leverage it.
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But always outwork it it because resistance is never going away.
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So before I leave you, lemme just ask you a few questions to think about in this podcast.
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Where is resistance showing up most in your life right now?
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Like it, it's usually behind procrastination, right?
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These theme days, Monday, first of the week, first of the month, first of the year.
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They always start with first.
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You're first.
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If you're gonna put yourself first, today needs to be that, that day it just, just bust a move, man.
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And you'll feel better on the backside of it.
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You don't feel good going into it, but you'll feel better once you check the box.
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Second question I want to ask you.
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What's one area that you can overcome resistance.
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By just busting the move.
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Like, like literally, bro, set your timer for five minutes and when I say resistance, you know I'm talking about your faith, your family, your fitness, your finances, your fulfillment, both professionally and creatively, but also man, just in everyday things.
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Like five minutes of reading a book, five minutes of listening to a podcast, five minutes of starting to fold the clothes.
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I got a sack of clothes down here on the floor.
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I got it.
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Set your timer for five or 10 minutes.
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When it's done, when the timer goes off, come back to it.
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You probably won't because you'll have overcome resistance.
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And now that thing's going in your way, you're like, well, shit, I only got four pair of underwear to fold, and I gotta match these socks up, but I'm good to go.
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It these, it's these small things, man, but this is how you train yourself to overcome and leverage resistance.
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And then lastly.
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Speaking of how can you leverage resistance, like use the weight of it?
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I think they do that in martial arts, right?
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They don't try to overcome a a, a stronger competitor.
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They use his weight against him.
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They use his power against him.
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I don't know anything about it, but that's what I've read about.
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So, same thing with resistance, man.
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So how can you use it?
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To, you know, you feel the weight of it, but you, you leverage it in such a way that you, you use it to your advantage.
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It'll make you more disciplined.
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It's gonna make you more confident.
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This is how you create separation.
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This is how you get freedom.
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it's seeing resistance for what it is, and then leveraging it to your advantage.
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Resistance can be both your enemy and your ally, just depending on what you do with it.
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Being, it's always gonna be there.
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And now that you hear this, you realize.
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You know, we, we do, we try to get to the land of milk and honey, where we're like, oh, you know, if only I can get to this stage in my life.
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And man, bro, you think resistance is just gonna be like, leave you Five years ago, I've been resistance free for five years.
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That'll never happen in your life.
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Ever, ever, ever.
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So get that shit outta your head.
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Get that shit outta your vocabulary.
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It's never gonna happen, okay?
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Resistance will be there forever.
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So if it's always gonna be there, see it for what it is and use it to your advantage.
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All right, let's get outta here.
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Be sure and share this episode with one person who needs to hear it.
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Who needs to hear about resistance?
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All right, let's go get that resistance in.
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As always, keep it simple.
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Keep it moving.
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Never settle.
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Stay tough.
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Peace.
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I.
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All right.
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3, 2, 1. Let's get it today.
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Let's talk about resistance.
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And I laugh saying this because you know, previous episode 9 62, I said, Hey man, we're coming out the next episode, actually, 9 61.
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I said, at 9 62, we're gonna come out with resistance.
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And then 9 62, I said, eh, it didn't come out with resistance, but I promise you the next one's gonna be about resistance.
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And bro, I hesitate on bringing this one out or, or delayed in bringing this one out, I should say is because.
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I did two other ones before this one.
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It's just I've, as I'm saying this, I realize I was resisting coming out with an episode on resistance.
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It wasn't that I didn't feel the episode, it's just I have an insatiable appetite every day to create something new.
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So I'm not a fan of going back in previous episodes and re clipping them.
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I'm just, I'm not a fan of doing that.
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And I have, I don't know, probably 50 if I had to just shoot from the hip, probably 50 that I have written for podcast episodes and then just never release because if I don't record 'em in the same day and because I like to write every day something new, I, I just, I move on down the road and I'm always like, well, I'm gonna do it on my day off, or I'm gonna record that one.
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Um.
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You know, um, I'm gonna record that one on this weekend, and I never do.
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It's like literally like.
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Probably 90% of the time, seven days a week I'm writing something.
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The days I don't write something, I'm just like agitated.
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So I really, really, really try to focus on that.
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Sometimes I, my writing, if I'm in a, in a jam and this may work for you, is like, I'll, I'll have the idea.
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And I actually audibly write, meaning that I will record my thoughts in my voice memo app, and then I copy the transcript.
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And then run it through chat, and then I refine it from there.
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Um, so it kind of condenses what I'm, and clarifies and, and arranges the flow and stuff like that.
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Um, so saying all that to say, I've been resisting resistance, so what a great topic today.
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And I think it's, I think it's super important because resistance Man is like, it's super sneaky.
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It really is, it's, it's very subtle and resistance.
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It, it doesn't come crashing through the door.
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It like seeps in quietly, almost like a monoxide gas and has a thousand faces.
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It shows up disguises, comfort.
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It sounds logical.
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It whispers like reason, and it disguises itself as like harmless delay by telling you, look bro, you've worked hard.
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Just take it easy.
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You've earned a break.
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We could double up tomorrow.
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We could start next month.
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We could start at the first of the year.
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That's resistance.
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And as harmless as it seems, it is far from harmless.
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It's destructive, but you just don't see it in blunt force.
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It's delayed.
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It comes because it builds layer by layer.
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Until one day, everything feels slow, heavy.
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You're just outta sync.
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You're so far off track and like literally it's like you just sober up one day.
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You like, you like snap out of it.
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Like share in moonstruck slapping, who was that?
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Nicholas Cage Snap out of it, and that's what happens.
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Then all of a sudden we look up the, all of a sudden we look up and we're like, oh my God, what happened?
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Nothing just happened.
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You've been losing though, not knowingly.
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You've been losing to resistance in small, quiet ways.
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One negotiation at a time.
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That's how resistance wins.
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Not all at once, but little by little, like microscopic, little by little it's like a thousand little pinholes, so that comfort, a little bitty pinhole, a little seep that double up, that delay, that procrastination.
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That get around to it.
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Pin, pin, pin, pin, pin.
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And it's these little bitty pinholes.
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Think of like a sewing machine.
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And what's happening is, man, it's just, it, it's blowing in there.
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Those little tiny things.
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One dot, no big deal, a thousand of them, you bleed out.
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That's what resistance is.
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In his book, resisting Happiness.
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Great book, man.
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I like to go back to that book from time to time, um, because it just, it's just a way of recentering recalibrating.
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Matthew Kelly writes this.
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He said the hardest one.
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This is about resistance.
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I love this.
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This is the actually the, the, the, uh, inspiration for today's episode.
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He said the hardest war to win.
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Is the one you don't even realize you're fighting and the hardest enemy to defeat is the one you don't even know exists.
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That's resistance.
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It is.
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And lemme tell you something, you're never gonna be live a day in your life.
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Resistance.
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Free resistance is always gonna be there.
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It is there when you wake up, it's there when you sit down to write.
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It's there when you work out.
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It's there when you have to have a hard conversation.
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It's there on your job.
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It's there in your creativity.
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It's there in your faith.
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It's in your finances.
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It's everywhere.
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And what's crazy is resistance It, it's so elusive.
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It doesn't have to shove you backwards.
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It stalls you out just long enough for your momentum to fade.
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That's the danger of resistance.
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It doesn't need to defeat you.
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Resistance only needs to delay you.
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That's how she wins.
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But here's the good news.
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Even when you can't eliminate resistance, you can use it to your advantage, like the gym resistance.
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When you lift, you add weight.
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That's resistance.
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That builds strength in life.
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That resistance builds commitment, resolve grit, and will.
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Shit, bro.
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If resistance is always gonna be there, you might as well make it work for you.
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See, when you face resistance, it feels heavy.
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It pushes you down.
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When you work with resistance, it makes you stronger.
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Unmanaged.
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Resistance will make you feel less than resistance.
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Mastered will make you unstoppable.
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when it comes to resistance.
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Some days, man, you gotta overcome it, and other days you gotta leverage it.
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Like you gotta overcome it.
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Some days when it's trying to push you down and other days, bro, you gotta leverage it where you, where you manage it and you flex it.
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That's what creates flight.
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The first form of resistance hits me just like it does you.
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Every morning when the alarm clock goes off, that warm and cozy bed, that's the first battle of the day.
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So I jump up, I do, and I hit the snooze.
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But lemme tell you what the snooze is.
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The snooze lasts for nine minutes.
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I don't stay down for nine minutes.
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It means I have nine minutes to get myself together, brush my teeth, take my vitamins, sound like Hulk Hogan here, take my vitamins and get up front.
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That's that nine minutes.
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I don't get up because I feel like it.
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I get up because I know what's waiting for me.
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If I don't resistance and if I don't get up, I take the L right off the bat.
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First two minutes or so is terrible.
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After that, it's like, all right, let's go.
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So I fight resistance every day.
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I fight it just like you do.
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I just put a process in that helps me stay not only aligned, but also actionable in growth.
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I wake up at a set time or after I go walk the dogs I read for 15 minutes from a random book I write about what I just read or what hits my soul.
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I work out.
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Sometimes it's resistance training.
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Sometimes it's cardio.
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Sometimes it's resistance.
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Bands in the driveway.
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Sometimes it's stretching.
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Bust a sweat.
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And I share something of value.
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It's like, what?
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This is right here.
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And then I design my day, what I'm gonna eat, know I'm gonna eat, and what I'm gonna wear and where I'm going, man, I just try to design that, try to just outline it so that way resistance is there the whole time.
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Every step of the way resistance is there.
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But you learn to leverage it.
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You do with consistency, man, you do.
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You just, you feel it, but you don't fall to it.
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You don't, you just like, come on, bro.
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Like, I feel you.
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I see you.
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Let's go.
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And at, at first, man, resistance.
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I mean, think about it.
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When you, when you're starting anything new, uh, that's the, like, the heaviest shit in the world, isn't it?
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It feels rigid.
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It feels like it's not gonna work.
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It feels like I, I can't even hold it all.
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That's just resistance talking.
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But once you turn it into a process like what I was saying, it becomes a rhythm you have to act your way into a feeling because feelings are unreliable.
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Resistance masked as , feelings.
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It's always gonna be there.
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The feeling to show up is not always gonna be there.
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It's not.
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So you have to act your way into a feeling instead of feel your way into an action.
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If you're waiting for feelings to show up, good luck on that one.
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You're gonna be so inconsistent.
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You're gonna have no momentum.
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You're gonna be just up, down, up, down, up, down.
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No.
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That's what resistance does, man.
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I move before I'm ready and then the feelings just have to show up.
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Man, I wanna end with this.
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Resistance never leaves, but neither will I. You don't conquer it once.
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You just outwork it every day.
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You do.
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You're not gonna destroy it.
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You just gotta build through it.
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And so when you see resistance, see how resistance you look at it differently now.
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Like, you know, it's, it's, you look at it through a different lens.
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It's a different perspective.
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It's a crazy thing about resistance.
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Resistance is the reason why most people stop.
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But it's also the reason why a few people soar is because they understand what resistance is.
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Some days you gotta overcome it, and other days you gotta leverage it.
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But always outwork it it because resistance is never going away.
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So before I leave you, lemme just ask you a few questions to think about in this podcast.
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Where is resistance showing up most in your life right now?
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Like it, it's usually behind procrastination, right?
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These theme days, Monday, first of the week, first of the month, first of the year.
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They always start with first.
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You're first.
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If you're gonna put yourself first, today needs to be that, that day it just, just bust a move, man.
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And you'll feel better on the backside of it.
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You don't feel good going into it, but you'll feel better once you check the box.
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Second question I want to ask you.
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What's one area that you can overcome resistance.
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By just busting the move.
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Like, like literally, bro, set your timer for five minutes and when I say resistance, you know I'm talking about your faith, your family, your fitness, your finances, your fulfillment, both professionally and creatively, but also man, just in everyday things.
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Like five minutes of reading a book, five minutes of listening to a podcast, five minutes of starting to fold the clothes.
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I got a sack of clothes down here on the floor.
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I got it.
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Set your timer for five or 10 minutes.
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When it's done, when the timer goes off, come back to it.
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You probably won't because you'll have overcome resistance.
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And now that thing's going in your way, you're like, well, shit, I only got four pair of underwear to fold, and I gotta match these socks up, but I'm good to go.
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It these, it's these small things, man, but this is how you train yourself to overcome and leverage resistance.
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And then lastly.
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Speaking of how can you leverage resistance, like use the weight of it?
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I think they do that in martial arts, right?
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They don't try to overcome a a, a stronger competitor.
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They use his weight against him.
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They use his power against him.
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I don't know anything about it, but that's what I've read about.
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So, same thing with resistance, man.
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So how can you use it?
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To, you know, you feel the weight of it, but you, you leverage it in such a way that you, you use it to your advantage.
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It'll make you more disciplined.
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It's gonna make you more confident.
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This is how you create separation.
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This is how you get freedom.
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it's seeing resistance for what it is, and then leveraging it to your advantage.
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Resistance can be both your enemy and your ally, just depending on what you do with it.
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Being, it's always gonna be there.
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And now that you hear this, you realize.
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You know, we, we do, we try to get to the land of milk and honey, where we're like, oh, you know, if only I can get to this stage in my life.
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And man, bro, you think resistance is just gonna be like, leave you Five years ago, I've been resistance free for five years.
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That'll never happen in your life.
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Ever, ever, ever.
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So get that shit outta your head.
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Get that shit outta your vocabulary.
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It's never gonna happen, okay?
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Resistance will be there forever.
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So if it's always gonna be there, see it for what it is and use it to your advantage.
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All right, let's get outta here.
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Be sure and share this episode with one person who needs to hear it.
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Who needs to hear about resistance?
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All right, let's go get that resistance in.
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As always, keep it simple.
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Keep it moving.
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Never settle.
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Stay tough.
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Peace.
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I.